And definitely no abuse, you need to change that pattern for good. Even if it doesn't, she might or might not come back to you. All I can recommend is you dump the current BF (safely I might add, in public with no chance of reconciliation) then block and delete BOTH him and the ex. Part of my situation too is that we live and work in the same small city...so at least once a week I'll catch a glimpse of him or we'll run into each other somehow. Why Can't I Get Over My Ex? I can give you more info if you like so you can have a better idea of my situation as apposed to yours but I would be grateful for any advice as my buddies are sick of hearing about it - fair enough too. It's gotten a bit better, but it hasn't gone away. If he wants to be with you, he will. It's been 8 months and when we split we didn't say a bad word to each and deep down knew that we wanted different things. Did I mess it up? The break-up was sudden, surprising, and pretty spectacular. ElinoraC Well, getting your ex month is still possible after months. Why? 10 months passed and I realised i have to do smth with my life.. so I just started all over, started hanging out on new places, met new people, started doing new things.. got rid of everything that reminend me of him (thats very important). We spent three years together, the first two years was amazing & we had the most amazing holidays and memories, but the final year we argued so much and what felt like, he was controlling me and constantly questioning me so I ended it. He said I smelt and throughout the relationship did abusive stuff like making me shower before I could be next to him. You need to be single, heal, love yourself again. Fiffy, I am sorry you are still feeling this way, but you are not alone. fiffy, I really don't know. You should be single still and taking time to get over your ex. Why hasn't my ex tried to contact me? It certainly hasn't been sustainable for me because inevitably one moves on quicker than the other, contact lessens and the bad points about her ( certainly for me ) began to fester. I'd heard through a mutual friend recently that she had moved on maybe a month or two back and I couldn't believe she had found someone to effectively replace me so soon but there hadn't been a lot of time between me and her ex before me and I remember one former boyfriend of hers remarking to her when we were in his company that she just always 'picked herself up and moved onto another' something which at the time irked her but I now see that pattern in her life. Very sad to say but...it took me two years to get over my 2 ex bfs that I cared about So I am assuming 2 years to get over this one. You don´t want to be all your life with someone who controls you and don´t trust you. What I realized was that I missed the companionship, and friendship we had and all the good times. 10 Reasons Why You're Still Hung Up At the beginning i was fighting to get him back but after i heard he said he is done. You might be able to influence the outcome in the short term by interfering with her relationship with the ex but then you have a very weak foundation, and if she's that flaky to be influenced in that way, it's likely that your relationship with her would be very rocky anyway. Signs Your Ex … ts been 6 months since he broke up with me (he said he just didn't love me anymore) and i miss him so much. I broke up with my boyfriend in June & despite now being in a new relationship, I still cannot stop thinking about my ex fiancé. You had a fiancé and then immediately moved on to someone else who by your accounts is terrible? Any way...I recommend that you analyze why your holding on and if you broke it off remember that as well....Good luck on your path of healing it can be a long road...but you'll learn from it. Putting hands on each other? Im so glad i read this because i feel so stupid still thinking about my two month relationship my recent "ex" (if you could call her that).......almost a year later and it still bothers me, and yet i feel silly because it was only two months. Clear editor. There's no point in being bitter though and I learned that quickly. Yes. Here is a question you might want to ask yourself. In retrospect perhaps not open wide enough?   You cannot paste images directly. There isn't an easy way through this for you. I'd say, you have to do a big of digging to figure out why you're not over them yet. We stayed friends and in the first month, I'd say, we were kinda helping each other through what was happening but the 'friends' idea - no matter how amicable the split - is for the most part unrealistic. Oh wow! Still not over my ex after a year. I would think, that you´re just using me, because you´re not happy. I don't know why I'm struggling to get over my ex if I'm honest. I still love my ex. Started Thursday at 12:58 PM, By Go to first unread ... #41 I have the exact same problem, o could've written that word for word , it's now been 9 months and I'm having a down day today, maybe because I was out drinking last night! Started Wednesday at 05:26 PM, By Also, your friends should be there for you through good and bad! Don't feel bad because there are a lot of good people here to help you out. Stanley. Trust me and I know this NC is the ONLY way to feel a lil better once you start doing it. I wouldn't hold any hope of getting back with your ex, after reading that if I was him you'd be the last person on earth I'd be spending my valuable time with. (I really love my ex but he hates me, last night he said the next man I will be with will be horrified when he sees my body. Watch. It sounds like a part of you feels that there's something missing so you can't let go. Whoa what are you doing??? I don't know what to do as i fell in love with a girl after 2 months (strange ha!) Second, why aren't you questioning why you keep repeating a pattern of ending up with jealous controlling emotionally abusive men? It's really that simple. It broke my heart. It might work out with her ex, it might not. Heartbrokenchick You really need to try! Ended on good terms. Jimmy111 Big mistake. It took me approximately two years to get over my last ex. Let me start off by saying that when I got into this new relationship I had originally thought I was over my ex. I cant stop thinking about him & the good times that we had and its driving me insane! We only dated for a couple of months but he had a serious impact on me, more so than any other guy I had dated, because things seemed so perfect and he got bored, thought he could do better, and left. 6Months is not long. I had all kinds of ideas about what my future with him held. I'm not up to 6 months post break-up but close. In my case, thankfully, my friends did not get tired of hearing about it. I don't have very good luck with them. I think your fear of being alone is what you need to face. Started Wednesday at 05:26 PM, By I am having a really hard time dealing with it as it was such an intense romance where everything just seemed so perfect, and whats worse just the week before the split she was was saying how he gave her the worst time of her life, hated her friends family etc etc. You don't know that either. Not 100% but I can breathe again. Only during time of self reflection will you discover your self worth and avoid this all together. I can honestly say that some of the feelings being talked about on here, that feeling of not just losing the person but your dreams and how you thought your life would be, the plans you both had etc going up in smoke was all thrown into the one pot when my relationship ended. Did I mess it up? My ex was a narcissist and I didn't realise this or the abuse I have been enduring until 4 weeks ago after it was suggessted to me in therapy and joining this site. can i still get my ex back after 6 months @ Text Your Ex Back. Am I being unreasonable about my husband's hygiene? Or maybe they're correct, and this is the way to find the perfect partner and relationship? I was with my ex for over 3 years and we were engaged to be married. Fiffy, I am sorry you are still feeling this way, but you are not alone. I know I'll get there, and there are even some days when I really do believe that. So I think it is quite normal to be single after a relationship ends no matter how long it takes you to get over it. Yes I do know how that feels, never any fun...you just want to let go, but for some reason can't seem to. ex boyfriend contacted me after 6 months. I know that eventually one day I will, but its been 6 months now and I have not even moved on in the slightest bit. I am so sick of feeling tired and upset and alone everyday. Get out of your relationship if it's hurting you that bad and begin the healing process from your last relationship. It's been just over 4 months for me and I am still hurting. glamguru In some cases it made it harder because we were bending over backwards to be nice to each other and supportive and a part of you begins to think that you are actually growing back together. Now this may be harsh, but speaking from experience, it's been 6 months. December 6, 2008 in Breaking Up Advice. You've been attracting emotionally controlling men. My question here is: will I ever stop hurting over him? That was something I could not live with. I can relate to that My recent ex has been the hardest one to get over (not there yet) and shortest relationship I had. Of course, it will depend on the situation. I am in a very similar situation to what you were. How long did you take your time to heal your broken heart? And even though they are abusive you put up with it, because your fear of being alone is greater than your fear of someone destroying your soul and happiness piece by piece, which yes that's what abusive people do to those around them. From the first day we had met there was some kind of 'instant connection' and i knew we were meant to be together. I thought everything was ok and we had a future but now I realise that it was all shallow.

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